The average human mind has the capacity to store up to 2.5 million GB of data. The irony is that more often than not it chooses to save embarrassing moments where we are making a fool of ourselves. The lecture you attended gets deleted and the incident outside of the lecture hall where you slipped and fell is now part of your memories.

Our memories go a long way in shaping who we are as individuals. Your personality and character are a reflection of what you have observed in your formative years and the things that stay with you. While traumatic incidents in your adult life can adversely affect you, a lot of times people find the strength and are able to heal because of a good foundation. The lack of a good foundation can lead to multiple issues in the future. It might need constant care/repair lest the entire building could collapse.

Try as we might, we don't have absolute control of our minds. Positive memories help us and give us strength, while negative memories do the complete opposite. People try and suppress bad memories, but they often surface later. In some instances this suppression can lead to complications.

So, what can we do?

If you ask me, we can do nothing but play with the cards that we have been dealt. Some people find solace in relationships, others seek help of a priest. Over time, and with persistent research, experts have come up some treatments (in most cases, experimental). The safest way to deal with a traumatic incident though, is to either seek the help of a therapist or make your peace with it.

Is there any way to avoid all of this?

To not have any bad/embarrassing memories is equal to living a perfect life. I don’t think that’s possible because we are wired to explore.

"Ah, yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it"

- Rafiki (The Lion King)